I happen to be a terrific, fantastic and wonderful person-- or at least I remind myself that I am-- and that is the image I try to present to the world-- an amazingly accomplished woman. But really on the inside I feel afraid of others' judgments, afraid of being insignificant, afraid of being wrong and doing wrong, afraid of disappointing others. Afraid. I reaffirm to myself that I am "good enough, smart enough, and gosh dang it, people like me!" But offered criticism, advice or even an opposing opinion, my natural reaction is to do a complete internal self-evaluation and to second guess my judgment or actions.
Through Edmond's addiction recovery, I felt profoundly God's love for him. I know that God loves Edmond, a wonderful man who has sinned, so why do I doubt His love for me and believe the put-downs I tell myself. In my meditations I state, "I am a powerful witness of God's intense and enduring love." Do I remember that His love is for me as well?
Reflecting on this pattern, I remind myself I am relying on the arm of flesh and not on my Redeemer! (Even that feels like a slap in the face... Man I have got to be better, do better...)
I have been thinking a lot about what it really means to rely on the Lord. What does healthy reliance look like; how does one act if one is relying on the Lord. I loved the suggestions of Edwin Crozier in his sermon 5 Ways to Rely on God's Strength to Beat your Giants. The idea that resonated with me was to walk in God's presence, by inviting the Lord to walk beside you each day. Talking to the Lord about all that you are doing and how you feel about it. The constant prayer in your heart to keep His presence in your memory. He says,
Talk with Him while you go through your day. Share what you are about to do. Ask Him to help with the decisions you are about to make. Follow-up with thanks for blessings that occur. If you fall, talk to Him about why it happened. This helps because it’s hard to gossip about your co-worker if you begin by asking God if He thinks it’s okay. It’s hard to look down a woman’s flapping shirt if you first run it by God to see what He thinks about it.
I would add as a reminder to myself, talk to Him about why He loves you. Talk to him about why you feel down about yourself. Talk to him about your plans, your diet, your choices, your failures (cooking and otherwise) and ask him to reassure you of his love. God's love, charity, never faileth.
Love this! I am still struggling with doing this and this is a great reminder. Thank you!
ReplyDeleteHi, I just found your blog. I haven't read all of your story at this point, but just wanted to give a word of encouragement that complete healing is possible. There is a component to addiction that most people are unaware of. I find that when a person addresses this properly, overcoming addiction becomes much easier. Take a look at the post on my blog "Why you can't start once you start" and see what is really driving the addiction. Be prepared to think outside the box. If you have any questions feel free to contact me.
ReplyDeleteGod bless you in all your efforts to heal.
Arden
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