tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8162092151829376312.post7658356806422806536..comments2024-03-01T05:17:18.828-07:00Comments on Finding Monte Cristo: Supporting a loved one after a slipAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14895116460098800885noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8162092151829376312.post-38559355268459371402014-11-24T12:00:12.123-07:002014-11-24T12:00:12.123-07:00I firmly believe the spouse of an addict has every...I firmly believe the spouse of an addict has every right to do whatever they need for their own healing, but it is important to remember that setting and enforcing boundaries is for the spouse's healing not for the addict. This post was simply a response to a question about what would be helpful for the addict.<br />I am by no means an expert on recovery for either the addict or the spouse. What I do know is that I need to be truthful with my wife when I do have a slip, and I need to give her space to process and deal with it in her own manner. I also know that when she responds to me in love and kindness I gain a greater resolve to improve and do better.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14895116460098800885noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8162092151829376312.post-10879494651096754582014-11-19T17:59:10.012-07:002014-11-19T17:59:10.012-07:00I don't think it's at all appropriate for ...I don't think it's at all appropriate for a recovering addict to give advice on how to support an addict when he is unfaithful. There are lots of resources for wives to learn how and when to set boundaries, and directing a wife to either another wife or to boundary resources would be more appropriate.my two worldshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03603944900688346024noreply@blogger.com